To Our Families

Some time may have passed since we lost our loved ones. Those around us have picked up the thread of their every day lives & moved on.

Indeed, we widows have tried to move on as well & build a new life. That doesn’t mean that we are over the loss; that stays with us forever. The edges of our grief are not as sharp as they once were, but we still hurt. Every single part of a widow’s life is affected by this loss.

What helps is knowing that our families will not forget or ignore us. We still need their support & consideration. Remembering important events in our lives: birthdays, anniversaries & holidays keeps us from surrendering to depression.

It may have been years since our loss, but we still cry in the shower & the nights are still lonely. Weeks before a lost beloved’s birthday or wedding anniversary or worst of all, the anniversary of their passing are especially emotional & difficult for the widow.

Other troubles in life that the widow may be experiencing can cause additional stress in her life. A caring family, one that remembers her, checks on her & offers to help is a God-send, a blessing. Don’t assume that because she seems independent she doesn’t need your caring & compassion.