It’s been ten years since I lost my husband, Mel, to
a sudden heart attack. Sometimes, it feels like a lifetime ago and sometimes,
it seems it just happened yesterday. I still love and miss him as much as ever.
For those of you who are on this same journey, I can
assure you that while you will continue to miss your loved one, the pain is
less sharp. You’ll cry a little less and smile a little more when you think of
them. There will still be those moments of sadness, those reminders of what you’ve
lost and the realization that you must face things alone.
When those moments do come around, try and remember
what you’ve accomplished so far; take stock of your life, see how far you’ve
come on this journey, see how you’ve grown as an individual.
For myself, I’ve come to actually appreciate the single
life; it works for me. I’ve gone from total dependence on another person to
self-reliance. I’ve learned that you don’t realize how strong you are until you
have no choice. I’ve learned to make decisions without consulting another
My aim in the last ten years was to make Mel proud
of me, of what I’ve accomplished and at the risk of sounding immodest, I think
I’ve done it. I’ve taken my pain and put it in a book, in the hope of helping
others on this journey. You can find Widowhood Is Not Funny everywhere
you buy ebooks.
I’ve also used my writing skills in many different
places, such as articles, blog posts and business writing. And I have another
couple of books almost ready for publication, which I’m very excited about.
As much as we might miss our lost loved ones, it’s
important to create a purpose-driven life we can be proud of and which do them
proud as well.
Remember—It’s not the end, it’s a new beginning!
As always, I invite you to post here on my blog and
let me know how you’re doing and where your new life has taken you.
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