Widowhood Is Not Funny

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Just One Wish

What would be your one wish? And yes, of course I know what you’d wish for, but we both know that’s not possible. It’s what all widows wish for, in the beginning. In the early days our widowhood, it doesn’t even seem real, but we just want everything back the way it was. We want to wake up and discover it was all just a horrible nightmare. We’ll open our eyes and our husbands will be beside us, warm and alive.

Later on, it’s all too horribly real, but we continue to wish everything back to normal, back to the way it was. Deep down, we know it’s never going to happen, but we keep wishing anyway. Eventually, we come to an acceptance of sorts. Wishing won’t make it so. Then we begin wishing for the pain to go away. No one can live with that much pain for very long.

Finally, we begin to wish for a sense of security, some kind of peace, a purpose for our lives, an end of our confusion. The best wish is for a brand new start. You can stay in the pain and keep wishing for things that can never come true, or you can face the facts that you’re alone, but you can handle it, you will handle it. And you will begin a brand new life. It won’t be the same as your old one, it can’t be. But it can be a good life; it will be what you make it.

Please post and tell me what you are wishing for now.


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