Widowhood Is Not Funny

Tuesday, September 05, 2006

A Feeling of Emptiness

This feeling of emptiness is perhaps one of the hardest todeal with after losing your husband. It's hard to move forward when your purpose in life seems to have disappeared.

We're suddenly left with this hole in our lives and hearts, a gaping void where love, friendship and passion used to reside. You probably felt you knew your purpose, your place and your destiny in this world. With the death of your husband, all of that vanished. The love, friendship and passion are gone, along with a sense of purpose and knowledge of where you belonged.

You now face what appears to be a very scary and uncertain future. The only solution seems to try to rediscover who we are, where we belong and why we are still here on the planet. I've learned everything happens for a reason; there is no such thing as a coincidence.

So, how do we find out the answers to our questions? I have no idea. I guess this is a dance we must learn as we go. If we reach out for the opportunities as they present themselves, perhaps the answers will become clear one day.

If there is anyone out there who has figured any of this out, please post and help the rest of us with this dilemma. This blog is not just for me to vent my grief; this is for all of us. Grief is easier to bear when shared.

Those of you who are further along this journey, please feel free to share with the rest of us how you're finding your purpose and reinventing yourselves. Let's help each other to grow, learn and move forward.


  • At 3:14 PM, Blogger cynthyy said…

    Dearest Alanna, thank you for your newest post. Fresh to this "fold" of widowhood, I too am desperate for ways to regain purpose and joy. It helps to know that others are out there with the same needs. I pray others who have found ways will come forward and soon. We need hope to get thru the endless days that are often so very empty. My Hospice Grief Support Group is helping me and I've made special friends there. Please keep posting dear one! And come on you guys out there, let us hear from you too! We're in this together and we can work together to make it through!

  • At 7:44 AM, Blogger AlannaK said…

    Cynthyy-I'm so glad you came to visit. You're so right, we can get through this if we stick together, and support and encourage each other. Widowhood is very isolating some days; we feel alone in our grief and very lonely. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, and if we hold on tight to each other, we'll make it.


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