Widowhood Is Not Funny

Thursday, June 07, 2012

It's Time to Re-invent Yourself!

For months after losing your husband, you feel unfocused & flaky; you just seem to drift from one day to the next, from one obligation to the next. You feel as if you are floating through life with no real purpose. Your friends hover on the edge of your grief. Many don’t know what to offer you other than their friendship; they don’t know what you want or need & neither do you for the most part. You just know it hurts.

In the beginning, all you are is “The Widow.” That’s your whole existence. You’re wrapped up in your grief & sadness, you are sadness, it seems. As time passes, you’ll begin to see yourself as something other than the victim, the poor widow. As soon as you begin to see yourself as something more than that, other facets of your personality will start to emerge.

In my case, I was able to see myself again as Mother, Grandmother, Sister, Aunt, & Friend. I began asking myself what I wanted to be in this new incarnation, what I wanted to do with my life. At that point, my world opened up & my horizons expanded. I studied, worked, honed my existing skills & added new ones. Soon, I was also Business Woman, Copywriter, Editor, Marketer, & Consultant.

Each woman must find herself, determine what she wants out of life, what she wants to be when she grows up. The important part is how you view yourself, how you think of yourself. You can’t remain forever as the “Poor Widow.”

So, get out there & re-invent yourself. You can be whatever you want to be. Emulate the Olympians & go for the Gold!

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