Widowhood Is Not Funny

Wednesday, May 03, 2006

Trail Blazing

I found this quote the other day and thought it was relevant to our new lives.

"Rather than following where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path, and leave a trail."--Anonymous

This feels like our lives from day one of widowhood. We can't find the path; we're totally lost in the wilderness. Others hold our hands for a few weeks, or if we're lucky, for a few months. But then they wander off, following their own paths, and we're left on our own, finding a brand new path and wondering where it will lead. It's overgrown and frighteningly narrow, only room for one now.

The temptation is to turn back and try to find the others again. We don't want to be alone. But there's no one in sight now and we must continue on this narrow path by ourselves. We have no map, no guidebook and it's scary all alone. We're not the first to do this and we won't be the last. It's time to be courageous, find our own way and blaze a trail for those who follow. Let's not leave our fellow pioneer women alone now. Let's leave a trail, a map, a how-to guide, something that tells them they are not alone. Let's help them find their way.

I'm in the process of writing that guidebook right now, but it's hard going at the moment. Feel free to tell your own story and add to that guidebook. Let's make that trail a little wider and a little easier for them to follow.