Widowhood Is Not Funny

Monday, January 09, 2012

New Year, New Start!

The New Year has always felt, to me, like a fresh start, a clean slate, a new opportunity. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned since I lost my husband and found myself alone, it’s to never ignore an opportunity. You never know where it might lead you or who you might meet. I firmly believe that we’re all here for a purpose and there’s a reason that people come into our lives. Either we’re supposed to help them or they’re supposed to help us. Sometimes, we help each other. They may not always stay, but they definitely show up for a reason, and it’s our job to figure it out and do what we can.

I know from experience that a new widow is lost when it comes to purpose. She’s lost her original purpose in life and it’s absolutely essential that she find a new one and pronto. Without purpose, she will wander in circles, drifting lost and without hope. We all need a reason to be here, a reason to get up in the morning, a reason to leave the house. Without purpose, we’d hide under the covers and become recluses.

While I understand the need for solitary reflection after losing one’s spouse, I urge you to get through your grief, then get out there and start looking for your new purpose. Open your heart and mind to new possibilities and opportunities. The sooner you do, the sooner you will find joy and happiness again, the sooner you will start to live again.

Remember, your husband would want you to live a full and happy life, so get out there and look for it! And please, I’m here listening and hoping for the very best for you in this new year. I hope you’ll post here and let me know how you’re doing. You can also contact me at widow_to_widow@yahoo.com

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