Widowhood Is Not Funny

Thursday, February 23, 2012

February 23, 2012

February 23, 2004-it’s been eight years since Mel passed away & I still miss him so much. Friends have tried to talk me into dating again, pointing out how nice it would be to have someone escort me places.

I don’t need to be escorted anywhere. If I want to go out, I go out, by myself, I don’t need a man to take me places.

I’ve become more independent & self-sufficient over the last eight years & I like it—a lot! I have noticed that the aforementioned friends are all happily married. My widowed friends understand completely why I’m not interested in dating or developing another romantic relationship. I didn’t choose to be single again, but as long as I have to be, I intend to enjoy the freedom to be my own person, independent & happy to remain so.

Each widow must make up her own mind about this situation—to date or not to date. Some want to be married again, others do not. Personally, I’m still in love with my husband & it would be unfair to begin dating with that attitude.

It wouldn’t be fair to always compare a new man with my husband. That new guy would always come up short, I’m afraid. I can’t have Mel back & I don’t want anyone else, so I guess that’s that.

I do intend, however, to get on with my life, doing things I love to do, doing work I enjoy & spending time with friends & family.

I’ll always love Mel & I know he loves me. We just have to be apart for awhile, but we’ll be together again one day.

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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy Valentine's Day!

Mel & I celebrated our first Valentine’s Day together in February of 1968 & got engaged on February 29, 1968-Leap Day.

We had thirty-five years of Happy Valentine’s Days, but I still fondly remember that first one, we celebrated together as a couple. We were so happy! We knew right away that we loved each other.

Unfortunately, I also lost Mel in February-February 23, 2004, to be exact. I miss him a lot, especially on certain days, like Valentine’s Day, Leap Day, his birthday, & our wedding anniversary, all those personal, special days that were important to us.

February is tough to get through each year, but I choose to remember that happy February, when we met, fell in love & got engaged. I choose to remember that, in a world where half the marriages end in divorce, mine was happy & successful. It was truly a case of until death us do part.

Happy Valentine’s Day, Mel! I love you!

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