Widowhood Is Not Funny

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Are You Lonesome Tonight?

That's when it's the hardest to bear-at night. During the day, there are so many distractions, so much going on, and so much to do. We dart from one task to another, keeping the unwanted images and memories at bay with sheer busyness.

However, at night, everything comes rushing back, the memories, the problems, the questions. They perch at the foot of the bed, keeping us from needed rest and destroying our peace of mind.

That's the time we miss our lost loves the most. Their faces were the last sight before we fell asleep; their arms held us tight, their lips kissed ours and reminded us of our place in the universe, our purpose in their lives. We had security, strength and love to hold us up, even in the toughest times. So yes, we are lonesome tonight and we will be every night for a very long time.

Many of us cry ourselves to sleep at night. Crying is therapeutic and helps release the pent-up emotions we've been suppressing all day. Let it out, and then treat yourself to a nice, hot lavender scented-bath to help relax you.

Push away the problems and fears and remember that well-loved face, the smile and the laughter. Hold that in your heart; close your eyes and sleep.