Time On Your Hands & Memories On Your Mind
No matter your age, your career, your family life or
your financial status, you could find yourself asking the same question all
widows ask—What do I do now?
Without a husband to care for on a day-to-day basis,
you may find you have an awful lot of time on your hands. And you know that
sitting alone day after day is certainly not good for you. The best way to keep
from sliding back into depression is to get busy & that busyness varies
with each widow.
Even if you have a day job, there are still the
nights to deal with, as every widow is painfully aware of. For those who are
retired, there’s even more time on one’s hands. And the memories are always
there reminding us of what we’ve lost. The love is still in your heart,
waiting, but waiting for what?
It’s been said that the best way to feel better is
to help others & that’s so right. If you’re thinking of others & their
needs, you’re not thinking of yourself & your own problems.
The world is full of those in need & it’s not
always necessarily about financial need. There are people who are in desperate
need of emotional support. Some just need someone to listen to them, hold their
hand or cry with them.
There are children who need guidance, babies who
need to be held & rocked, or other widows who just want to be reassured
that there is a point to their lives & they’re not all alone on this
journey.
Since I lost my husband, I’ve met many other widows
& widowers who ask the same questions—What do I do now? Where do I go from
here? What will I do with my life?
So put all that Time on your hands to good use. Let
those Memories on your mind warm you, & let that Love in your heart expand
to others in need.
I hope you’ll post here on my blog & let me know
how you’re feeling, tell me what you’re doing to fill that time on your hands.
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